Ilaria was born into the noble family of the Mancinis, a wealthy warrior tribe that had grueling training for every single one of their offspring, even the bastards and women. Their strength was unparalleled anywhere in Dorne and they held their wealth and power with an iron fist. Until one day, a feud between the Martell household and them broke out over the ruling of Sunspear and Dorne, but the Mancinis were the losing side despite their strength, due to their lack of strategy and core focus on brute strength. There were only brief skirmishes, a few deaths, and talks, but no full blown war. They were given a choice: become peasants and live in shame and filth for the rest of their lives, or merge their household with their’s, which would mean marrying their eldest daughter (Ilaria) to one of their sons. Her family at first were going to take the option of becoming peasants because they knew their hot-blooded daughter would never accept such a thing after years of failed marriage meetings, but Ilaria volunteered personally. But that was because she had a plan.
She gave secret messages to her parents and any siblings she had, telling them of her plot to kill her new husband and then flee the city with whatever money they could get. It was a less than honest plight to keep both their wealth and their pride, but they took it. So Ilaria was wed to one of the sons of the family, bound by her hands for a month to keep her in check. Ilaria was treated tenderly by her husband for reasons beyond her comprehension and although he treated her well and didn’t wrong her even once, as soon as she was freed of her binds, she immediately killed him. She gave the signal for her family to grab whatever they could and run, herself already having her deceased husband’s riches in her possession and bounding into the untamed lands beyond the settlements and cities. Unfortunately, she did not receive a single word back from her family, them having not made it out in time. Grieved and alone, Ilaria wept for days, unable to accept that she had failed and she was completely on her own now. Eventually, she adjusted to life outside the city, building her own inn and living a very modest life outside of the spotlight.